09 July 2015
Dealing with CSE is never easy, but when it occurs in your own family, it can be especially tough to ask for help and get the support you need.
When the abuser is part of the family, victims worry about being taken away from their parents, about upsetting their loved ones and even about what will happen to their abuser if they report what’s going on.
It’s important to remember that wherever CSE happens and whoever the abuser is, reporting it and asking for help is the best way to change the situation and ensure you have a safe place to call home.
Sadly child sexual exploitation within the family is one of the most common forms of sexual exploitation. Often by a parent, step-parent or member of the extended family, even a brother or sister. Often it’s an older sibling who is the abuser, targeting their young and more vulnerable siblings and taking advantage of their position of trust within the family.
In some cases, the abusers may not live in the family home and may possibly already have issues with drink, drugs or mental health problems. When the abuser does still live in the same house, life can be even harder for the victim as they don’t have anywhere safe to call home.
When the abuser is a sibling or other family member, many victims worry that they’ll be removed from the family home if they tell someone about the CSE.
Though this may happen sometimes, it’s definitely not a certainty and in many cases social services will try to keep the person affected by CSE within the family while removing the abuser. As every case is different, it’s impossible to say what will happen in your individual situation but it’s important to remember that those trying to help you will have your best interests at heart. If you’re currently suffering from CSE, you need to tell someone no matter what.
Victims of CSE within the family are often also afraid about upsetting their parents and other family members by talking about the abuse.
If you’re worried about talking to your family about CSE, the Rose Project can help you to find the right words and the right place to tell your loved ones what’s going on. However upset they may be at first, they need to know about the CSE if they are going to stop what’s going on and get you and even your sibling the help you need.
Help and support
If you’ve been affected by child sexual exploitation within the family and need some help and support to talk about it and get yourself out of the situation, call the Rose Project today on 0808 800 1037 and talk to one of the friendly members of our team.