Losing Your Virginity

When you’re a teenager, it often feels like the only thing anyone ever talks about is sex. Whether your friends are doing ‘it’ yet or not, sex is often one of the biggest talking points for young people across the country.

As a result, it can feel like everyone is doing it apart from you. Often, young people begin to feel pressured into sex, especially if their friends have become sexually active or if they hang around with older people or have an older partner. To make sure that you don’t do something you’ll regret later, read this short guide on virginity and taking the next step in your relationship.

It’s your virginity

If you’re feeling pressured by your friends or your partner into having sex, remember that it’s your virginity. You only have one chance to lose your virginity and you’ll never get it back once you’ve let it go, so make sure that you only do it when you feel ready.

Never feel pressured

Though it can feel like you’re the only one in the world who hasn’t had sex, in reality, there are loads of other young people out there thinking the same thing and you are far from alone.

If you’re with a boyfriend or girlfriend, they should never try to pressure you into having sex.  You may not be in a relationship but someone could still try to force you and it is never OK for someone to pressure you into doing something you don’t want to do, no matter who they are. If they do try to convince you to do something you’re not comfortable with, make sure that they know you’re not ready to take the next step. If they continue to pressure you, talk to someone you trust and think about ending the relationship.

Young people who are in a relationship with an older person can often feel like they need to have sex to show that they are grown up. If your partner truly cares about you, they will never rush you into doing something that you’re not ready for and they should always respect your feelings and your body.  

Stay safe

When you do decide to have sex, it’s important that you do it safely.

Despite what your friends might say, it is possible to get pregnant the first time that you have sex, so think about what type of birth control you’re going to use well before the event.

There are sexual health clinics in towns and cities across the country that offer free advice and birth control, so find your local centre and pop in for a chat.

If you’re not able to go to your own home, try to find a safe, comfortable place to have sex. It’s also important that you don’t take any drugs or drink any alcohol before you have sex as this could affect your judgement. If your partner tries to force you to drink or take drugs, then you should remove yourself from the situation straight away, speak to someone that you trust and get to a safe place. Remember, you have the right to say no and if you feel uncomfortable then you should also leave and go to a safe place.

To find out more about what makes a healthy relationship and the signs of an unhealthy one check out the rest of our blog. If you’ve been affected by sexual exploitation call the Rose Project confidentially on 0808 800 1037 and talk to one of the friendly members of our team.